I have a good friend who definitely fits the definition of AFC. In his twenties, he is nevertheless a virgin, once kissed a woman (one of his proudest stories), and always moans about how women"always opt for the douchebags who don't take care of them". However, by far and away the largest thing which marks him out as an AFC to me is the fact he feels constantly compelled to shield women in situations where they aren't getting any insult or threat. We predict the need to'shield' girls white knight syndrome, and sadly, I have a tendency to meet a great deal of white knights.
When I flirt, I have a tendency to keep my conversations hard for both parties; being accepting and jokingly insulting in equal amount. This, 1 evening, saw me call a girl a"drunk bitch" because she fell over and slurred her voice (that this type of speech was by no means different from the way her and me talked to each other). My friend, misguided because he was, felt forced to stand up and say to all in the room"Today [my name]! That's a very rude thing to say for her" . Everyone went quiet and looked at him for an instant, until the girl on the ground thankfully broke the silence instead beautifully by crying"Yeah [my title ] don't be a whore!" . Normality restored. Following the party I took my buddy aside and explained to him exactly what he had been doing wrong and it made women believe that he was weird. It's Sexist
Our thoughts of knighthood and chivalry derive from an era where men were infinitely more powerful than girls, and thus chivalry encouraged men to help those who were not in control of their lives. By jumping in to defend a lady's'honor' today (especially without asking her), you're making the assumption that she can't help herself.
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It's Creepy
Would you know who the two biggest groups of people of the world who worried with women's honor are? The very religious, and also the'nice guys'. Incidentally neither of those groups get a lot of action outside of wedlock. By obsessing on the standing or battles (perceived or real) of a lady who's not your close friend or lover, you're showing an extremely suggestive interest in her. Be a person and show your attention . It's Your Problem
If you are bravely jumping to the aid of some damsel, you probably have not ceased to consider whether she finds it to be a problem. To intervene is to enforce your ego on her, as you don't know if she finds that which was said offensive. In fact all it does is tell everybody that you're uncomfortable with the term'bitch' (such as ).
There are Cooler Ways to do it
Within this postmodern, cynical age, no one stands up and directly up calls folks out on their defects in front of others. Unless you are an idiot, then you don't do so by standing up and saying to the interloper"Look man, your presence is creating this woman feel uncomfortable and she is not interested in you." Even when you're right in saying something like this, you can jak przywitać się na pierwszej randce do it with more class and much more subtlety. For instance (going back to the my knight encounter ) you can simply say within the shoulder something along the lines of"Can you kiss your mom with that mouth?" And then move the conversation on. Try and be slick guys.
What to do
These 3 attitude changes should help you to avoid white knight behaviour. Like the Player
Among the first things you need to do is to hear what men say to women and try to work out whether it's a misguided effort at being emotional genius. Even if it is against your friend or spouse, good game is excellent game, and you'll be able to learn a great deal from observing before acting. If a guy says something that amuses your inner knight, pause. The first thing that you need to do is to give him respect for trying to say something that risks a negative response. That is something which the vast majority of the social cattle around you will never attempt in the course of their life. Be Edgy Practice adding a little spice into your conversations: all you have to do is ask why someone thinks something, or disagree with them on a small point, that is usually sufficient to generate a tiny pleasurable friction. Come to appreciate that look on a lady's face when she's snapped out of automatic conversation mode because you didn't stick to the standard routine of considerate arrangement. A conversation is much nicer when both parties need to consider what they're saying.
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Like the Women
Finally you need to realize that girls are (deservedly) in control of their lives, and that it's taken a long time to get there. This is the very best thing that could have occurred to the dating game, as it make men like you and I become better individuals so that we are appealing to women (instead of back in the day when women were considered as talking property, you did not need to be a terrific man back then). You have to play these new rules and accept it is up to the woman whether to be offended or not, and to decide if your aid is needed. Focus on your personal game friend.